11 Signs You Are Dealing with a Crazymaker

Julia Cameron, speaks very candidly in her book “The Artists Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity” about several personality types to avoid while nurturing your inner Creator.

The most dangerous of these is the “crazymaker”, and this type of person should be avoided at all costs. We’ve all experienced a Crazymaker at some point in our lives, we may even have one in our life right now. Perhaps we have even been one ourselves *gasp*.

Crazymakers are those personalities that create storm centers. They are often charismatic, charming, highly inventive and powerfully persuasive but for the creative person in their vicinity, they are enormously destructive. You know the type: charismatic but out of control, long on problems and short on solutions.

Crazymakers are the kind of people who can take over your whole life. Crazymakers like drama. If they can swing it, they are the star. Everyone around them functions as a supportive cast, picking up their cues, their entrances and their exits, from the crazymaker’s (crazy) whims. Often larger than life, they acquire that status by feeding on the life energies of those around them. The crazymaking dynamic is grounded in power, and so any group of people can function as an energy system to be exploited and drained.  Crazymakers can be found in almost any setting, in almost any art form. Fame can help to create them, but since they feed on power, any power source will do.

11 Signs you are dealing with a Crazymaker:

 

1.  Crazymakers break deals and destroy schedules. They show up hours late for an appointment (if at all) and expect to be waited on hand and foot. They invite you out for lunch, order the most expensive thing on the menu and then expect you to foot the bill.

2.  Crazymakers expect special treatment. They suffer a wide panoply of mysterious ailments that require care and attention whenever you have a deadline looming. The Crazymaker cooks her own special meal in a house full of hungry children – and does nothing to feed the kids. In fact, they care little for anyone else outside of themselves.

3. Crazymakers discount your reality. No matter how important your deadline or how critical your work trajectory at the moment, Crazymakers will violate your needs. Crazymakers are the people who call you at midnight or 6:00 am saying, “I know you asked me not to call you at this time, but…” or “I know you’re on a deadline” they say, “but this will only take a minute.” YOUR minute.

4. Crazymakers spend your time and money. If they borrow your car, they return it late with an empty tank. Their travel arrangements always cost you time and money. They demand to be met in the middle of your workday at an airport miles from town saying, “I didn’t bring money for a taxi”.

5. Crazymakers triangulate those they deal with. Because Crazymakers thrive on energy (your energy), they set people against one another in order to maintain their own position of power. From this position, they can feed most directly on the negative energies they stir up.

6. Crazymakers are expert blamers. Nothing that goes wrong is ever their fault.

7. Crazymakers create dramas-but seldom where they belong. They are often blocked creatives themselves. Witnessing others express their creativity makes them feel jealous and threatened. It makes them even more dramatic- at your expense. Devoted to their own agendas, Crazymakers impose this agenda on others. In other words, whatever matters to you becomes trivialized into a mere backdrop for the crazymakers’s personal plight.

8. Crazymakers hate schedules- except their own. In the hands of a Crazymaker, time is a primary tool for abuse. If you claim a certain block of time as your own, your crazymaker will find a way to fight you for that time, to mysteriously need things (meaning you) just when you need time alone to focus on the task at hand.

9. Crazymakers hate order. Chaos serves their purposes. When you begin to establish a space that serves you and your creativity, your Crazymaker will abruptly invade that space with their mess.

10. Crazymakers deny that they are Crazymakers. They will always try to convince you that YOU are the one that’s crazy.

11. Crazymakers drive you Crazy. (My #1. Rule is If it doesn’t feel good, don’t do it. If someone in your life is making you crazy run far away and fast…)

If Crazymakers are that destructive, what are we doing involved with them? The answer, to be brief but brutal, is that we’re that self-destructive.

If you are involved now with a crazymaker, it is very important that you admit this fact. Admit that you are being used, and admit that you are using your own abuser. Your crazymaker is a block you choose for yourself. As much as you are being exploited by your crazymaker, you too are using that person to block your creative flow.

If you are involved with the tortured tango of a crazymaker, stop dancing to his/her tune. The next time you catch yourself saying or thinking, “He/She is driving me crazy!” Ask yourself what creative work you are trying to block by your involvement.

Have you ever dealt with a particular crazy crazymaker? How did you handle that situation? Let us know in the comment section.

 

 

2 Comments
  • Iain'ttakin thisanymore
    Posted at 11:21h, 21 September Reply

    This explains first, my niece who is the most troublesome, damaging CRAZYMAKER I have ever seen. Then, my wife. Her dad is exactly the same, she acts exactly like him. My niece was not happy telling the truth so she would spin stories. She got people after me to try to kill me years ago, then she physically assaulted her husband, trying to kill him. Her father in law tried to get her three boys away from her (now they are highly confused mentally ill boys) and my niece made claims that her father in law anally raped her middle son so she could keep her kids. My father went to investigate all the damage she did against me and others, from four states away. He stayed with my brother. The very people he went to for answers were the ones she invited to try to kill me. They hemmed and hawed all day and never gave him anything. He told them he was coming back in the morning with an FBI agent. They followed him to my brother’s house and shot him in the head before he could even get out of his car. CRAZYMAKERS are the most dangerous, destructive people in the world. I wish we could put them all in mental institutions to keep the rest of us safe. My wife is one of the worst CRAZYMAKERS I’ve ever seen, second to my niece. I do not know how I married her. But, it will be a very successful relationship for me because of all the practice I got dealing with the CRAZYMAKER from hell, my niece. I can deal with it now.

  • Jennifer
    Posted at 17:24h, 01 November Reply

    If I hadn’t had 2 amazing boys who are now in their late teenage years I would have definitely left this man a long time ago.
    I just so desperately wanted a family unit and it seems especially in the later years he was just trying to totally destroy me and I absolutely became so TOTALLY CONSUMED with him trying to please him in whatever was needed at the time. His shouting/anger turned into violence and he told us 3 that he lefft for our safety. He been gone 20 months and I’m now finally finally realising that I just wanted him to step up and help with
    communicate / kindness to the boys with anger and violence.and responsibility

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